“But we can’t right now, our lives are too busy!”
” I know we have some money put away but let’s just wait and see how this year goes!”
“I’m sorry but this is a stressful season at work!”
All valid reasons, They all make sense but perhaps we could address the core issue.
I was blessed to be raised in a family where shared experiences: meals, game nights, camping, and many other options were a rich value. These experiences tended to be the glue that connected our hearts, caused laughter, and helped remind us that we were family, even during those tough teen years.
In like fashion, my husband and I have taken time and resources to build the tradition of shared experiences into the DNA of our family; it is our prayer that they will do the same with their own families.
However, I often hear from friends and colleagues that their lives are too busy, finances too tight, relationships too challenged, and ideas too hard to come by when looking into the possibility of a vacation, or other experience opportunities.
I used to have the idea that making memories could be something we can do “later on”, in a few years, down the road but after losing a precious family member last year my filter has done a 180 degree change. None of us can count on tomorrow, nor can we count on the fact that we will always have all our family members or our health.
You might say that this is a fearful approach to life; pessimistic perhaps, but I would differ with you and would clarify that it is due diligence to “seize the day”. Lay down those aforementioned excuses and plan a vacation, have game nights, go on hikes, cook together, dream together, do life together. The real cost is your time and today is all you know for sure.
Over 24 months ago we took an untimely (and a kind of expensive) trip to Southern California to visit precious family there, went to Disneyland with them and had a very special shared experience with them all…… It was the last time I got to laugh with Christopher……………….It is more priceless a memory than I could have ever imagined!
We are embarking on the doorway of summer!! Use this time to lay down the cell phone, computer, daily worries and make fresh memories and meaningful connections with those you have the privilege to love!! Make a summer list and begin today!
3 thoughts on “The incredible VALUE of shared experiences~”
Diana, this is so true and timely with summer upon us and the schedules of school left behind for awhile. We leave in a few days to take one of our four grandchildren on a trip to Yellowstone Natl. Park, Mt. Rushmore Natl. Monument and other fun and memorable places. This is the third grandchild we will take. We begin with our grandkids when they are 10 and take them on a trip, one at a time. Then we take them again when they are 12 years old. These are some of the most precious times we have with them. They remember so much of the trip at the age of 10. I put together a memory book of the trip when we get home and give it to them. Thank you for this reminder to use this present time to build relationships with family.
I love how you capture such valuable perspectives in an engaging short story. I have loved all the “shared experiences” with you and our family. Looking forward to more in the future. Love, G