“The wounded Oyster mends his shell with a Pearl” Anonymous
Disappointment is a part of life. You cannot dodge it, you cannot prevent it, but you can deal with it in a productive and successful manner.
It took Hershey four attempts to launch Hershey Chocolate. Henry Ford was not a winner the first time, and Thomas Edison had more disappointments then successes! However, they all succeeded because they had the fortitude to stick it out and deal with the disappointment effectively.
Disappointment can be a major cause of business or relational failure because we may quit too soon. We may have difficulty weathering the setbacks, walking through structural changes, or we simply get hurt or offended. Setbacks and conflict can create disappointment killing your prior ambition. You may simply have a huge urge to walk away!
One of the biggest challenges with disappointments is that we can become bitter and offended; even see ourselves as a “victim of circumstances”. These emotions will cloud our view of the situations, others, and ourselves. It’s a vicious trap and one to avoid!
In my life I have found that I am most disappointed when my expectations for a person, project, or experience are unreasonably high! When the situation ends up much different then what I had in my mind and my hopes are dashed! It’s tough to return to my “visionary” thinking!
So how do we navigate disappointment without allowing it to rob us of our mental and emotional health?
Balancing our expectations is probably the key. When working with others we will have conflict and at times, find ourselves offended. Expect it. When conflict arises have a plan in mind to address it , learn from it, and resolve it. Without a plan you will simply leave yourself open to be wounded.
Business will have ups and downs. In the DISC Profile I have a high S, which means I like things nice and STEADY! I get scared when things feel “uncertain”. I am learning that business and projects have seasons to navigate. If we don’t anticipate these seasons we will be left discouraged!
Most of all, disappointments are a great opportunity to grow, to learn greater trust, to forgive, and to see life from a fresh perspective~~
Pretty sure my opinion of “disappointment “ is not FUN, but at my ripe old age ( LOL) I have learned the value of hindsight.
We are told in scripture that God promises to never leave us or forsake us, that He uses all situations for our good, and that He has a plan and purpose for our life, so if we believe Him then disappointments can create growth IF we navigate them with grace.
I am still a learner, how about you?
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Man, I needed to read something like this today! TY!!!
So glad!! Frankly, so did I!! 🙂
Just loved this, Dianna… and so timely! Thank you for sharing!!! 🙂
love you Robin!
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