I remember when our boys were young and our son David was playing soccer. We’d arrive at the field with our 2nd graders; low back chairs and coffee. Parents of each team would line up on either side of the field ready to cheer on their team; their child. As the boys would run up and down the field it was always exciting to see them get the ball into the goal!
However, with this age group the rule was that Soccer Is FUN!! We don’t keep score!! I clearly understand the value behind this idea, but I know for certain that every parent was diligently and fervently keeping score!!! Even me!! There MUST be a winner, right?
Keeping score gives games a competitive angle; creates a bit of tension, makes it fun! Imagine football or baseball without keeping score! boring!
Keeping score can be a great thing accept in one arena: Relationships!
In relationships having a competitive edge, a bit of tension really isn’t fun. Interestingly enough though, just like with those childhood soccer games, we have a natural inclination to keep score.
In the Blog “Learn This” the writer shares some great thoughts: “Be willing to offer your help, give of your time, pay for lunch, make an apology first, share some vulnerable personal stories, step out of your comfort zone, make a step in faith, be brave, be first and be generous. Do this without keeping score, offer it every chance you get. Put the effort into your relationships without expectation! Everything about this aproach changes your attitude, increases your outlook, and keeps you joy filled! Every personal connection you encounter is an opportunity in your life, both with business colleagues, friendships and family, to learn to NOT keep score! A chance to forgive quickly and give freely.”
Keeping score causes resentment, irritation, and self-righteousness; all negative! Rather, love without expectation, give freely, and choose peace over being “right”. In doing so…well in Soccer terms~~ YOU WIN!! 🙂