I DON’T LIKE YOU!!
Ugh, those are 4 words we hate to hear! We hate it when people don’t like us. I believe we come by that naturally as we are wired up to want to be liked. The challenge is when we find ourselves compromising who we truly are trying to make others like us; admire us.
I read a wonderful statement this morning that got me thinking about this topic of “being liked”. It expressed “Don’t stay so busy trying to be what you think others want you to be that you forget who you truly are!” Joyce Meyer
How often do we turn ourselves inside-out to meet the approval of others only to find ourselves disappointed in ourselves? Been there? I have, and here are a few things I have been learning:
1. Not everyone will like me. Yet, truthfully, I don’t have a natural affinity for everyone either. It’s ok.
2. The strongest relationships are those where it’s okay to disagree; the shallowest relationships are the ones where we agree simply to stay in someones good graces.
3. When I work hard to be the best “me” I can be, I am more confident and less affected by whether or not I am “liked”.
4. When I am willing to be my true, authentic self I find that others who are authentic are drawn to me and our interactions are much more meaningful.
Perhaps asking yourself these questions can help you assess whether or not you are challenged in your need to be liked:
*Do you speak the truth (while still using care, wisdom, and respect) even if it’s unpopular to do so?
*Do you live a life consistent with your Core Values?
*Do you life a life of integrity to the best of your ability?
*Do you believe that your motives are good?
*Is it your goal to be a positive impact in the lives of those around you?
*Do you like who you are?
*Do you “disappear” when interacting with someone whose approval you long for?
Honestly access your answers to these questions. Perhaps this year we can all learn to be more of our authentic selves in the home, workplace, churches, and communities. In doing so, we may give others permission to do so as well!! 🙂
” It takes courage to grow up and turn out to be who you really are.” E. E. Cummings