My office is filled with decorations, games, gifts, and baby items as I prepare to give my precious Daughter in Law, Azlan, a baby shower. Not at any moment do I actually forget that I will be a grandma soon, but these items do serve as a daily reminder to me.
When I think about the kind of Grandma I want to be I find myself thinking about the Grandmothers that impacted my life; they set the bar pretty high for me.
My Nanny was musical; she played the Organ in her home beautifully. I always remember lots of home-cooked food; she liked to make jello salads! I remember sitting in front of her silver Christmas tree watching the wheel of color changing hues, thus changing the color of the tree. I also remember an old picture that showed Jesus standing at a door welcoming all those who would willing enter. The verse at the bottom said “Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.” My Nanny loved flowers. I can remember many times playing dolls in her backyard filled with sunshine and the smell of roses. I remember how my Nanny used to send me letters in her sweet handwriting. I remember all these things. One thing I do not remember, ever, was my Nanny being angry or harsh with me. I can’t recall her ever raising her voice to me at any time. I deeply appreciate that about her. I want to be that kind of grandma.
My grandma Eva had a contagious smile, she was a joyful person. I remember taking walks with her to feed the donkeys down the street, Irish music playing in her home, and the three-pronged tiny stool where I would sit in her living room and listen to her engage in interesting conversations. I remember picking figs and chasing squirrels in her backyard, and I remember that I always ended up with a “Pixie” haircut by the time I would head home after “my week” with grandma! I remember all these things.
What I do not remember, ever, was my Grandma Eva ever being too busy to talk to me. Eva never made me feel like I was in the way or a bother to her, just the opposite, she made me feel incredibly valuable and loved. I deeply appreciate that about her. I want to be that kind of Grandma.
The bar has been set high for me. However, because of my grandmothers’ impact on my life I believe I will be mindful to make my grandchildren feel as I did!
Who has impacted the person you are? Who set the bar high for you? Take time to remember and appreciate those that poured into your life; honor their impact on your life by returning the favor to those around you.