Over a year ago, my son and his wife gave us a box of conversation questions from a company called Table Topics. I thought it was a clever idea, fun. What I have actually recognized about their value is the unique way fresh questions can unlock meaningful conversations in a whole new way!
It is so easy to get locked into routine conversations around work, ministry, money, and children. We partner with our spouse and we parent our children; which is all good. But, what if we make an effort to simply want to KNOW more about those we love rather than spending the bulk of our time directing schedules and managing behaviour?
What if we gave ourselves a time-out from routine conversations at the table or in the car, using that time to ask about dreams, favorite things, ideas, and best memories? Perhaps even using that time to ask about the “highs” and “lows” of the day! I imagine you will experience some un-expected moments of fresh understanding. For some reason an unexpected question often takes the direction of the connection to a new place.
Table Topics is a great tool, but if we are intentional enough to want to experience fresh insights with our friends and loved ones; we can easily prepare some of our own, having them ready to use when the time arises!
As a coach I am asking my clients questions all the time. I have been amazed to watch a quality question give way to a truly rich conversation.
Perhaps this is the year to shake out of the mundane and make your conversations really count!