Is there any difference between being prideful and being proud?

As a Coach, I regularly have conversations with women about becoming the best version of themselves; often talking about advancing in their gifts and talents. For many women there is a  huge discomfort surrounding success and advancement. The idea that they would feel proud enough of themselves to share their wins and offer their services hinges on the fear that they may appear prideful. For many having a humble posture often feels much more comfortable.  But does that quest to appear humble stand in the way of being successful?  Does quality success always lead to a prideful attitude?

I have a few thoughts.   Humility doesn’t mean downplaying your talents, accomplishments, or giftings.  The challenge comes when we feel our talents, accomplishments, or giftings far out way those of our peers.  A healthy humbleness is evident when we are able to celebrate the good talents, accomplishments and giftings of those around us as well.  It’s important to find satisfaction in who we are, in who God made us to be and in the things we do well.

Be proud of who you are! Perhaps you’ve launched a business, written a book, started a charity,  earned a degree, mentored others, raised an amazing family, or have learned a new skill, be proud of it.

C.S.Lewis has a great quote, “True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.”

So, what does a prideful person look like?  As a general overview:                                                  1.  They feel entitled and show a lack of gratitude.

2. They tout their title and interject their accomplishments whenever they can giving little or no credit to those who have helped along the way.

3.  They feel they have arrived and are no longer teachable.  They tend to feel they have all the answers no longer needing input.

4.  They crave the spotlight, the accolades.  What may have started out with sincere motives has now become hollow; has now become a source of identity.

Celebrate who you are and what you have to offer to this world.  Allow yourself to grow in influence and reach by utilizing all the talent and resources you have.  If you have a skill that can be life-giving for others, let them know! Whether in business or personal issues; let people know what you have to offer.

And then, remain grateful and honored for your gifts and talents, appreciate the many people who have come alongside you to help you become the person you are today, and be a cheerleader of others who are excelling in their gifts and talents.  Together, with the absence of pridefulness ~ we can make a difference! 🙂