For Women Only!

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If you have followed my blog for any length of time then you know that there are certain themes that I will write on time and time again; hopefully expressing thoughts in fresh ways. The “rule of seven” tells us that a person generally needs to hear a concept at least 7 times before really grabbing ahold of the concept and applying it to their lives.  So please indulge me as I take another stab at a truth that I know to be very, very important!

LADIES!  I give you permission today to take as good care of yourself as you do for all the others in your lives!

As a young woman, I was a pastor’s wife, friend, sister, daughter, church volunteer, school volunteer, house-keeper, cook, and mama to two active boys; how I wish I had been told how impacting it would have been if I had figured out some way to establish self care  in those days! So often I was exhausted, unhealthy, and even a bit isolated in my closest relationships….I was just so busy.

Let me explain Self-Care a little better:

“Self care includes any intentional action an individual takes to care for their physical, mental, relational, and emotional health.”
Good food, water, exercise, and good sleep patterns are  key to maintaining vibrant energy and outlook.
Life giving friends, healthy boundaries, quality support,  and cup-filling activities help to keep our emotional health strong.
Having proven ways to relax, taking time to journal thoughts and concerns, growing in the area of faith, listening to positive information rather than focusing on the negative, and learning to nap are all elements that support sustainable mental wellness.
Building good friendships, gathering with other women in your season of life, enjoying “girl time” where you can laugh deeply, and having a “posse” of women who you know have your back, strengthens our sense of connectedness and relational health.
Here’s an action step:
If you look at your calendar, personal and professional, and you don’t see yourself represented there on any given day–it’s time!
* a spa day
* a girl’s night out
* a nap
*time at the gym
* time with God
*time with a good book
*hiking in the great outdoors
*crafting
* and saying no to some good things to use your greatest energy for the BEST things.
10WaysToSayNo         ( just for you)
Permission Granted Again. ( you are worth it )
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Sweet mama~~Love thyself!!

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Young mothers; they are so precious.  Recently I have had the joy of observing and spending time with some incredible young mothers who inspire & amaze me!  These gals want to be the best mothers; having meaningful impact on the precious little lives they’ve been gifted.   However, along with loving these sweet little ones; these women try to keep a clean house, love their husbands, and put healthy meals on the table.  Some work full-time outside the home.  Again, I am amazed.

I am also concerned. When do these sweet mothers allow themselves to take personal time?  When is it ok to have dinner out with a friend, get a message, or go for a run?  I am concerned that most mothers put themselves at the bottom of the list of “to do’s”. I am concerned that mothers pour themselves out to the point of exhaustion; unable or unwilling to make time to “love themselves”.

At 55, with many years of hindsight I would love to send a challenge out to you sweet mothers!!  Love yourselves, take time for yourselves, find ways to fill your cup!!  This is a gift you give your little ones!!

Here are some tips I’ve gleaned from my life and the lives of other successful mothers:

1.  Get up early enough to connect with your Saviour. Jesus Calling is a devotional book that will encourage you.  Take 20 minutes to be encouraged and to pour your heart out to the One who loves you the most!

2.  Eat Breakfast. Ladies, a cup of coffee is not breakfast.  A good breakfast with protein and grains will sustain you.  You must eat!!!

3.  When the babies/ children rest~~ YOU REST!!  seriously, dishes can wait!!  Take 30 minutes to unplug.  Zzzzzzz……..

4.  Laugh~ with your children, with your husband, with a friend.  Laughter makes a heart lighter. 🙂

5.  Extend grace!! In the season of babies, toddlers…and well, frankly even teens, you need to be gracious with yourself and others…. the house may not be perfect.  Your hair may have been in a pigtail way too long.  The laundry pile may be bigger than you want.  Extend grace!!  Snuggling with your little ones, reading a book to them, singing silly songs; these things are the riches of life.

6. Be careful what you say “YES” to. Your time is precious, don’t give it away unless it really, really matters to you!  There are seasons and assignments in all our lives. There will be a day when those little “ponies” will ride away. I know, trust me!!

Ladies!  Have you ever been on an airplane and listened to the instructions about using the oxygen mask in an emergency?  The flight attendants always give special instructions to those traveling with children:  Put your own oxygen mask on before you place the mask on your child. ”  Hmmmmm…..see the irony?

Sweet mommies~~ Love Thyself!! 🙂

How did you find the energy, Mom
To do all the things you did,
To be teacher, nurse and counselor
To me, when I was a kid.How did you do it all, Mom,
Be a chauffeur, cook and friend,
Yet find time to be a playmate,
I just can’t comprehend.I see now it was love, Mom
That made you come whenever I’d call,
Your inexhaustible love, Mom
And I thank you for it all.