For Women Only!


If you have followed my blog for any length of time then you know that there are certain themes that I will write on time and time again; hopefully expressing thoughts in fresh ways. The “rule of seven” tells us that a person generally needs to hear a concept at least 7 times before really grabbing ahold of the concept and applying it to their lives.  So please indulge me as I take another stab at a truth that I know to be very, very important!

LADIES!  I give you permission today to take as good care of yourself as you do for all the others in your lives!

As a young woman, I was a pastor’s wife, friend, sister, daughter, church volunteer, school volunteer, house-keeper, cook, and mama to two active boys; how I wish I had been told how impacting it would have been if I had figured out some way to establish self care  in those days! So often I was exhausted, unhealthy, and even a bit isolated in my closest relationships….I was just so busy.

Let me explain Self-Care a little better:

“Self care includes any intentional action an individual takes to care for their physical, mental, relational, and emotional health.”
Good food, water, exercise, and good sleep patterns are  key to maintaining vibrant energy and outlook.
Life giving friends, healthy boundaries, quality support,  and cup-filling activities help to keep our emotional health strong.
Having proven ways to relax, taking time to journal thoughts and concerns, growing in the area of faith, listening to positive information rather than focusing on the negative, and learning to nap are all elements that support sustainable mental wellness.
Building good friendships, gathering with other women in your season of life, enjoying “girl time” where you can laugh deeply, and having a “posse” of women who you know have your back, strengthens our sense of connectedness and relational health.
Here’s an action step:
If you look at your calendar, personal and professional, and you don’t see yourself represented there on any given day–it’s time!
* a spa day
* a girl’s night out
* a nap
*time at the gym
* time with God
*time with a good book
*hiking in the great outdoors
* and saying no to some good things to use your greatest energy for the BEST things.
10WaysToSayNo         ( just for you)
Permission Granted Again. ( you are worth it )

Warning Signs~


Heading down the elevator I saw a sign warning visitors that the oceans temperature was especially warm and there had been an influx of jelly fish.  We were being encouraged to consider using the pool for the day rather than swimming in the ocean.

Vacationing on Maui and swim in the pool rather than the ocean?  Not me! I headed to the beach.  After successfully enjoying a few hours of ocean fun I felt a sharp stinging pain across my entire back!  I had been stung by a jelly fish ~ a sting that went on to become a large welt across my lower back creating much discomfort for the remainder of my trip.

The day before we flew from Maui to Kauai we visited a beach located in front of one of the larger resorts on the island.  Located at key points along the beach there were red flags warning beachgoers of strong waves and an aggressive undertow.  Nevertheless, the ocean water was full of swimmers.

Sitting on the shore I watched a toddler getting pulled from her mothers hands and getting yanked out toward the crashing waves, a senior citizen getting tossed to and fro unable to get up time and time again, and a grandpa frolicking with his grand-daughter getting pummeled by a huge wave pulling them  both under the water unable to get their faces up for air.  I was full of anxiety watching these scenarios!!

In both stories warnings had been posted, these swimmers assumed, as I had, that they would miss the harm that they had been warned about!!

I have been pondering the whole Idea of “Warning Signs”  over the past few days and I wonder if, even in our day-to-day lives, we ignore warning signs all around us? Whether the warnings involve an activity, a personal choice, a relationship, the use of finances, or numerous other decisions, I wonder if we end up paying a high price for ignoring the “warnings” we receive from those we trust, things we read, or even the prompting of the Holy Spirit.

In the early days of ministry I really wanted to “help” people.  In my desire to help I would blow past internal and external warning signs and engage in “high need” relationships thinking that I would certainly be able to make a difference even though others had been greatly challenged in those same situations.  In my misguided heart to help I would find myself pulled into the emotionally charged lives of unwise people who completely wore me out!  If I had paid attention to the warning signs I would not have faced the fall out of my involvement.  The warning signs WERE there!

What about you?  Are there decisions you are making where you have chosen to ignore the warning signs, the cautions that are right in front of you?  Are you thinking that YOU will be able to “make it through” without any repercussions?

Heeding warning signs breeds wisdom.  If I had made a wiser choice on my vacation I would not have been stung by that ol’ jelly fish!! I was warned!! 🙂