You just might need a Coach!

 

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Being seen and heard by someone is very powerful and profound. Having a life coach to support, guide, and teach you on a regular basis is empowering, inspiring, and one of the best decisions you can make if you want to move forward into fresh places in your life and career. Simply put~~ we get stuck.

Having a safe place to land bi-weekly call, having a coach guiding and supporting you through your challenges, heartaches, and successes can be incredibly helpful and freeing. Your coach should cause you to feel safe and empowered. If you are unclear and afraid of the unknown, you won’t take actions to make necessary changes unless you trust your coach. Make sure you find a coach with your best interest in mind, one who is trustworthy, and has enough confidence to help you to move into new territory.

When you start to make changes in your life, it feels exciting and uplifting but also scary and unfamiliar. This might be when you start to sabotage yourself; sometimes the unfamiliar territory can be a little bit scary and we want to run back to what we have always done! If you have a brave and inspiring coach by your side you will be able to make fresh changes, even when if feels a bit scary  your coach will keep your eyes on the end goals you have desired!

Your coach will understand the challenge of change. They lead the way for you to have the greatest success. A coach will spot your self-sabotaging patterns quickly, so you can stop tripping yourself up and move forward with renewed confidence.

You may not take yourself as far as you can go on your own. And just like the good intentions of getting a gym membership to become and/or stay healthy and fit, your intentions  to make needed changes will often fail when you begin to move out of your comfort zone.  Having a coach who is trained to help you create clarity for your vision and spot your reactionary patterns will enable you to make the changes necessary for the results you have been dreaming of!

If you have invited a skilled coach into your life they will celebrate with you and make sure that you recognize and cherish every success along the way.  You most likely don’t take time to realize your accomplishments and successes! You might overlook what you have accomplished and your coach will take note of every change you make along the way!

Finding the right coach for you could change your life! Having outside insight can bring you closer to your hopes and dreams. I know, as a woman who has been coached in a pivotal season…..If I’d have know how to change my life on my own I’d have done it! I needed a guide, a cheerleader, and a safe place to land in order to grow.

Could this be your season?

https://www.coachwell.com/

Power of a GREAT question!

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Coaching is about asking good questions.  Coaching is about helping people ask the tough questions, assess their current reality, and take steps to move them toward their goals and dreams!   Here is your starter kit to accessing your current reality! Great questions to move you to a fresh place in your life! Be brave….answer the questions…set goals….and celebrate the wins!! Yeah for growth!!

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  1. I’m curious; may I ask you a few questions?
  2. What’s great about your life this week?
  3. How have you grown this week?
  4. What did you accomplish this week?
  5. Who did you serve?
  6. What did you learn?
  7. Who else will benefit?
  8. What are you grateful for?
  9. Who’s grateful for you?
  10. Is this what you want to be coached on or are you just sharing?
  11. What could you be happy about if you chose to be?
  12. Are you using this to grow or are you beating yourself up?
  13. Does this story empower you or disempower you?
  14. How can you turn this around and have better results next time?
  15. On a scale of 1 – 10 how honest have you been about this, with others?
  16. Do you mind if I offer an observation?
  17. Is this the problem or the solution?
  18. How would you like it to be?
  19. What’s in the way?
  20. What’s stopping you?
  21. What does this mean to you?
  22. Are you focused on what’s wrong or what’s right?
  23. Is that a story or the truth?
  24. How can you find out?
  25. Do you want this for its own sake or are you trying to avoid something else?
  26. Is this giving you energy or draining your energy?
  27. What will really make the biggest difference here?
  28. Is this a limitation or is it a strength?
  29. What’s the benefit of this problem?
  30. Who else is this hurting?
  31. What does your intuition tell you about this?
  32. Do you have a gut feeling about this?
  33. Have you solved problems like this before?
  34. What rules do you have that are getting in the way?
  35. How long have you been thinking about this?
  36. Have you ever experienced something like this before?
  37. If you changed your belief about this, what would be possible?
  38. Is this a decision or a pipe dream?
  39. Which of your core values does this goal express?
  40. Is this goal pulling you forward or are you struggling to reach it?
  41. Will this choice move you forward or keep you stuck?
  42. What’s the first step you need to take to reach your goal?
  43. What’s the worst that can happen, and can you handle that?
  44. What’s the downside of your dream?
  45. What’s stopping you from taking action?
  46. Who wouldn’t like it if you succeeded?
  47. What will you have to give up in order to make room for your goals?
  48. How would your life be transformed if you changed this right now?
  49. If you don’t change this, what will it cost you in the long run?
  50. What’s the most resourceful choice here?
  51. How can you improve this, so it adds value forever?
  52. How can you solve this problem so it never comes back?
  53. Are you acting on faith or fear?
  54. If you weren’t scared, what would you do?
  55. Are you standing in your power or pleasing someone else?
  56. What are you pretending not to know?
  57. How could you have this conversation so it empowers everyone concerned?
  58. What might make the difference that could change everything?
  59. If you approached this with courage, how could your life change?
  60. Are you procrastinating or is there a reason to delay?
  61. What’s the emotional cost vs. the financial cost?
  62. Which step could you take that would make the biggest difference, right now?
  63. How can you get your needs fully met?
  64. If your life were exclusively oriented around your values, what would that be like?
  65. How would you describe the difference between a need and a value?
  66. If you achieve this goal, will it bring lasting fulfillment or temporary pleasure?
  67. Have you thought about the impact you’ll have by creating this?
  68. How can you learn from this problem so it never happens again?
  69. How can you create more value with less effort?
  70. What are you willing to do to improve this situation?
  71. What are you willing to stop doing to improve this situation?
  72. How can you enjoy the process of solving this problem?
  73. Do you mind if I ask a very personal question?
  74. What are you willing to commit to here?
  75. Do you need to work harder or delegate this?
  76. If this weakness were also a strength, what would that be?
  77. How can you use this so it becomes a benefit?
  78. Have you decided to take action or are you just hoping you will?
  79. Are you angry or are you hurt?
  80. Who can help you with this?
  81. Does your current habitat fully support who you’re becoming?
  82. What do you need in order to succeed here?
  83. What plan do you need in order to achieve your new goals?
  84. Are your personal standards high enough to reach your goals?
  85. What will your impact be 100 years from now?
  86. Who do you need to become in order to succeed here?
  87. What are you responsible for here?
  88. Instead of either/or, how could you use both?
  89. Are you approaching this from your head or from your heart?
  90. Is this an assumption or have you checked to be sure?
  91. How can you learn what you need to know about this?
  92. Is this the best outcome you can imagine or is there something greater?
  93. Do you have a detailed strategy to get there?
  94. How will you transform your life with this new knowledge?
  95. What does this accomplishment mean to you?
  96. Why does it matter?
  97. Who did you have to become to achieve it?
  98. What did you learn in the process?
  99. Who else will benefit?
  100. What’s next for you?
  101. How have you changed the world for generations to come?      (School of Coaching Mastery- Julia Stewart)

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Confessions of a Life Coach~

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As a Life Coach I get to spend my work days with incredible people who desire to reach their full potential. We talk about past challenges and changes that need to be made.  We establish the best practices to achieve fresh goals and to establish routines that produce great fruitfulness in their lives, families, ministries, and businesses. As a Life Coach I help my clients to calendar activities according to their key priorities so that their schedules aren’t eaten up by low paying activities!  I have to admit that it gives me pure joy to see my clients experience so many “wins”!  It is truly exhilarating!

But~ here’s the catch…if I want my leaders and clients to have authentic change then I must lead by example! Yikes, right? There’s the kicker! I have to take my own advice and apply the same suggestions I give others into my own choices and routines!

Over the years I have heard folks say to me, “It must be easy for you to maintain life balance and good choices because you are a Coach.”   Wrong!  I still have to talk myself into my workouts; working past the thoughts of “I’ll do it later today, the roads aren’t safe, I worked out enough yesterday!”.  As much as I love the Lord I have to wrangle myself to sit down, read, pray, and reflect each day!  In the area of good food choices I still have to be mindful about making sure I have a healthy breakfast and being careful about late night snacks, among other challenges!

The verse in Romans 7:19 talks about the conflict between doing what I know is best; “For I do not do the good that I desire; but the evil which I do not desire, that I do.”  Even though this battle rages on inside I must continue to pursue doing what is best, what is right, and what it fruitful if I want to be a leader.

James 3:1 states the challenge this way, “Not many of you should become teachers, my fellow believers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly.

I recognize that I am still growing and learning as a person and as a leader, yet I clearly understand the challenge and responsibility of applying the very principles I am challenging others to apply.

How about you?  You may be a parent, school teacher, pastor, Department head, Or CEO.  Those you lead are watching you.  Those you “teach” to make choices are watching the choices you make.

I encourage you to continue to pursue excellent in your life so that your leadership has a positive and consistent impact on those who look to you for wisdom and guidance.

As leaders, we may not hit a home run every day but if we keep our best practices in place we will have more wins than fails as we walk out the lives God has given us!

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My Life/Business Coaching Interview~

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Recently, I was invited to be interviewed on Life Coaching.  I have had so many people ask me what I do, and why I do it.  I thought this interview gives an answer to those questions!

Thanks for taking time to read! 🙂

Life Coach InterviewQ1.)How did you get into life coaching?

  A1.) I was a pastor’s wife for 16 years before I was trained and certified as a Ministry/Life/Business Coach.  As I look back I can see that I had been a “life coach” for most of my early ministry years in church ministry; I’ve always enjoyed helping people navigate the challenges and changes in their lives! It was my experiences as a ministry leader that helped me see the need for leaders to have someone to process their challenges and dreams with; a safe place to land.  Without it, many leaders end up isolated.  Being trusted to be that “safe place” for numerous women in leadership over the years is something I treasure.

Q2.) What’s your favorite part about being a life coach?

  A2.)I love seeing leaders win!  I love seeing leaders reach goals they never thought they could, get healthier than they ever imagined, grow in their relationships deeper than they thought possible, and lead with confidence. Being a trusted adviser while a leader walks through the many changes and seasons of life is truly amazing. I have a card file that I name the “why I coach file”—in it there are many, many cards that I have received from my clients; the statement on most of them that I love the most is “I just never imagined that I could ________, but I did it!!”

Q3.)What is the biggest misconception about life coaching?

  A3.)Well, there are a few.  One, that coaching is just “talking”.   Coaching is an intentional on-going conversation and exploration of the life and goals for a leader.  Coaching keeps a finger on the pulse of those life accounts that the leader has expressed to have key importance in their lives. The coaching conversation is about action and results.

The second misconception is that Life Coaching is a modern word for counseling.  Truly there are times when I know it’s time in a session to remove my coaching hat and put on my counseling hat; sensitive issues, losses, etc.  But Life Coaching is about “how” to move through those challenges.  A counselor is a better fit for those dealing with deep challenges.

The third misconception is that it is the Coaches role to tell their leaders what they should do; to drive the direction that I think would be best. However, this is not the case.  My role as a Life Coach is to help leaders discover their best direction and then empower them to begin to make needed changes.

  Q4.)How do you incorporate God or biblical principles into your life coaching?

  A4.)I love how Proverbs has so many rich nuggets of wisdom that relate to our lives, I like to use them regularly in helping leaders consider fresh ideas.  Most of my coaching over the past 12 years has been among those who have a strong faith, yet my coaching has spanned across every denomination and non-denomination so I am extremely careful not to coach from my personal biases.

That being said, I have loved the freedom of sharing our faiths with one another and getting the privilege to pray at the end of our sessions.

 Q5.)What is the biggest benefit that your clients rave about after working with you?

 A5.)1..“Having a third-party insight and the voice of wisdom speak into your reality is priceless!”

2.  “Having someone wise and caring outside the organization who believes in you, will speak honestly with you, hold you accountable and help you see where your own emotions or fatigue are blocking you, all combine to create success in being the best version of yourself that you can be. “

3.  “Coaching with Dianna has given me a new level of confidence! She always reminded me to ask, “What is God saying to me right now?” and thoughtfully answer. Even once coaching ended, I still think through how to be intentional in my different life accounts. She helps you identify what your life dream is, and cheers you to go after it and find practical steps to get there!

  Q6.)In order to get the most from life coaching, what advice would you give someone looking to become a coaching client?

A6.)I feel it’s key to assess whether or not you are ready to make fresh changes in your life, coaching is not something you can be pushed to do, it is something you choose to engage in for your own benefit.  Are you in a place of honesty and do you feel committed to taking steps, even baby steps, to move toward fresh goals, are you willing to be kept accountable for the Action Steps you’ve committed to?   A personal readiness and commitment is key to a successful coaching experience.

It’s important to find a Life Coach that you feel you can connect with. Some folks want someone who is firm and directed while others may want someone with a stronger relational connection.  The Coaching relationship is an important one so it’s key to find the very best fit for you!

 Q7.)What current projects are you working on?

A7.)My husband and I have just completed creating an online tool for the leaders we coach. The tool is key to helping church and business leaders create coaching cultures within their organizations.  We are very excited about the growth possibilities for them!

I am starting a book for women discussing key elements we need to navigate the many seasons and assignments we encounter in our lives.  I coach so many women in numerous life transitions, some very overwhelming: aging parents, empty nest, menopause, illness, new marriage, career change, etc

How can we walk through life changes without losing ourselves in the process?

 Q8.)Any final thoughts about sharing life coaching with my blog readers?

 A8.)One of the greatest values of engaging in a coaching relationship is the opportunity to gain greater momentum in each key account in your life: faith, family, finances, health, personal/professional planning, and priority management.  Just like in sports; an athletic Coach takes raw talent and intentionally trains towards a goal.  A Life Coach will help draw out those deep longings in your heart, those goals and dreams you’ve allowed to go dormant, and will help you to see the possibilities in a whole new light!

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Dianna Salciccioli is a Professional Life/Ministry/Business Coach. She was a Ministry Coach with Ministry Coaching International for 9 years before founding Coachwell alongside her husband, Greg, in 2011.  Dianna was originally trained and certified by Building Champions as a Ministry Coach, and continued her training with Ministry Coaching International until establishing Coachwell.

Dianna has spent years as a mentor to women and teens as a pastor’s wife.  She understands the challenges and celebrations of Ministry life as has been a valued support to many ministry leaders.

Dianna is passionate about helping leaders clarify their passions, dreams big dreams, and trust in God’s heart for them as they bravely press forward to live a life full of legacy.

www.coachwell.com