People Of Influence~

 

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I remember as a young girl, I idolized people of influence!! Amazing Speakers, teachers, and evangelists who rocked the pulpit!! They could draw people to tears, real life change, and to new vision!  I was nervous in their presence, I imagined they were nothing less than perfect~ simply put, amazing people!!

Then~~ I grew up.

My life at this time gives me the privilige of rubbing shoulders with amazing influencers.  What I am loving is that they aren’t perfect and don’t express that they are.  I love that they humbly give the glory to God, and are honest about the challenges they face! Those who lead with arrogance and pride don’t stand the test of time…..sad but true.   But those who lead and love like Billy Graham…..well, they finish well and have lasting impact!

May we all lead and love with a humble heart, dependant on God, and ready to extend our reach beyond the borders of our imagination!!  Real people of influence are…well…..real!  Love it!

How real are you? Risk authenticity, and soar! 🙂

Would I be willing to Stretch?

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Over the weekend I attended a fabulous Woman’s Event where we were encouraged, even challenged, to stretch beyond our comfort zone to make a difference the world around us.  Our speaker told stories and gave statistics of the incredible needs abounding in the USA and abroad. As a passionate person I initially felt that I needed to make a difference, do something, in every area she expressed a need!  Then I started to feel overwhelmed!  I really can’t make a difference everywhere!  There’s just not enough of me to go around! So where does God want ME to focus my attention, finances, and time?

During our round table conversation we discussed the question:

  What is my unique calling?

The answers around the table were rich as each woman shared their area of passion and committment. One was called and heavily involved in the fight against Human trafficking, one was involved in reaching out and supporting widows, one was a speaker/ writer with a passion to help women become the “warriors of the faith” that God has called us to be, another was an art teacher who builds confidence in children and adults alike. There was a precious gal who felt called to focus on her family; pouring into the next generation, and for myself? I am presently called to invest in the hearts and lives of women in leadership to empower and support them to lead and influence well.  I loved the diversity at our table!  I loved that each woman was fully invested in what they felt God was calling them to do in this particular season! It’s really important to know our uniqueness as part of the Body of Christ.

But then there’s the challenge to stretch out of our comfort zone to create fresh impact along with our calling: mentoring troubled teens, funding woman across the globe to become independent and fruitful, working with a Pregnancy Resource Centers, or supporting those who are in the middle of the fight against Human trafficking! Would we be willing to ask the Lord if there might be something fresh that He wants us to step into along with our unique calling? Perhaps with our prayers, maybe our finances, or possibly our time.

You may have recently read a powerful book, listened to a moving podcast, or have attended an impacting Woman’s event like I have and have felt a stirring in your heart; maybe God is calling you and I to stretch our efforts to have greater impact on those in need. Would we be willing to ask?

Parker Palmer wrote a wonderful book called Let Your Life Speak that directs us to discover and live a life wherein our God-given design intersects with what the world needs. I think a life lived operating in the gifts God has given us—and mindful of meeting the needs of others—is a life that beautifully reflects the person of God. The world could use more people like that.

Let’s be those people! 🙂

AARRGGH! Sometimes I just don’t like you!

Ever met anyone who you seem to dislike for no known reason?  Every time you are around them you feel a little irritated, defensive, or critical? Are there people on your team at work, or even in your family that frustrate you whenever you are around them?    What would you think if I explained to you that it’s possible you simply don’t understand how they were created?  Let me explain.

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Throughout most of my life I “disliked” strong, aggressive people-male or female. I saw them as arrogant and self serving. I indited them simply because of their “alpha” personality~Type A.  I liked the peaceful type–the fun type–and for most of my life I surrounded myself with people I liked….people just like me! 🙂

As a Life and Business Coach I have been trained on an assessment tool called the DISC.  This assessment breaks down behavior styles into 4 quadrants:  Driver (D), Influence (I), Steady (S), and Conscientious (C).  Each behavior style is different and though we have a portion of each of them in ourselves, we do have 1 or 2 that are more dominant than the others.

As I began to learn the high value of the different behavior styles I started to understand why it is so important that we understand each other, give grace, and learn to communicate according to what we understand about our differences.

Today I am not irritated by a Type A (D-Dominance) personality from the get-go!  I understand that they have a need to focus on getting tasks completed, that they can be impatient, be a little blunt, and talk forcefully. But that does not mean they do not love deeply and care about those in their lives.

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As a high I (Influence), I love people, my life is highly connected relationally, I like to have fun, love to laugh~ but I’m not so great with details and I probably talk too much!!  I can frustrate people too!

For the S (Steady) change can be a upsetting, they may stay in a challenged situation or relationship longer that needed or is healthy because they are so loyal. However the S dislikes conflict and may do all that is possible to avoid it while the D jumps right in to conflict unafraid!!  See the amazing difference?

The C (Conscientious) likes to know what the rules are and wants to be sure everyone is following them!  There is a right way and wrong way to do things…period. So imagine their frustration when an I , like myself, chooses to create my own rules!A high C does NOT want you to mess up their organized desk! Do not use their stapler without asking!!  LOL!

I say all this as a reminder that we have all been created differently. Scripture says we are fearfully and wonderfully made!!  Love it!

So I challenge you, as I challenge myself, before you indite or decide you dislike someone~~ Step back and think, are they a D  I  S  C???  Then seek to understand them the best you can! To help you in this quest, feel free message me on Facebook and I will send you some tools that will be a great source of understanding.  I firmly believe that the more we seek to understand about how someone is wired up – the great success we will have in those relationships!!

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Fabiola’s Note~~

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For 10 years of my adult life I had the incredible joy of mentoring many teens through their Jr. High and High School years.  There were times of joy and sadness, challenge and depth, crazy fun and shared experiences.  What a privilege.

All of these amazing “kids” have grown and moved on into productive lives of education, occupations, ministry, marriage, even parenting ( that makes me feel old). I am abundantly proud of each and every one of them; always thrilled to hear updates on their lives.

A couple months ago I received an unexpected note from Fabiola~ a precious young woman who was involved in my life during those mentoring years. I will share a portion of it with you:

“Hi Dianna!
Ok this is super random, but I was just thinking about you guys the other day. And I was remembering all the times that we used to hang out at your house, and you ALWAYS made the best food! I was just thinking about how cool it was that you were so involved in our lives, and would invite David’s friends over to get to know them. Made me feel so at home as I was hanging out with these new Christians.

Anyway, sorry to be so cheesy. But honestly, hanging out at your house and doing fun things there kept me out of trouble in high school and in good company. Sometimes when I hear about what the kids in high school are doing now – it breaks my heart.  I know I’m speaking for our whole class. Just so cool, honestly. Thank you for pouring into our lives.

Wow~ I remember the impact that this note had on my heart.  I was blessed to hear that there was continued fruit from time well spent with these great kids!

The reason I chose to share these thoughts is because all of us have people who are, or have been in our lives who may not know how much they impacted us! Perhaps we are too uncomfortable to share it, we assume that they may know,  or it seems like their impact was such a long time ago……there are many reasons.

How about taking some time to list those people who have had meaningful impact on your life and then choose to creatively let them know in 2013! What a fabulous way to begin a brand new year: gratefulness and appreciation.

Fabiola’s note was a sweet reminder of how much words of affirmation matter~~for all of us!

Happy “intentional” New Year to You! 🙂