Time to sail away from the shore~

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During the past week I came across a quote that caught my attention right away; I felt that it embodied how I feel about this season of life.

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” – Mark Twain

As a young girl I don’t think I would have called myself brave or daring, rather I was most comfortable with things that were steady and safe.  Certainly I could get excited about the “idea” of taking big, bold action but in the end I would always stay safely on shore!

I believe that my fear of failure kept me on tasks and in situations that had fairly sure outcomes, no real risk or adventure involved. I never wanted to feel the weight of personal disappointment nor did I want to disappoint anyone. Thus, I did very little that was competitive in my early years.

In High School I branched out and joined the Swim Team; practicing hard to prepare for the swim meets on the weekends.  I remember one particular swim meet where I realized no one was in the lanes next to me and I felt a twinge of excitement that, perhaps, I was going to be the first one to the finish line. As I pulled to the edge of the pool with all the speed I could muster I popped my head out of the water to find that, actually, I was the last one in! That was my last swim meet.

Today, with years of hindsight under my belt, I fully recognize the value of taking risks, challenging myself, throwing off extreme cautions that choke my ability to dream, and giving myself permission to “fail forward.” Without being free to “sail away from the Harbor” I would never have had the life I have full of rich memories, opportunities, relationships, and fresh challenges!

Everyday I learn that life is short, mistakes only cause me to grow, challenges strengthen my resolve, and risk makes me depend more on God in every way. So, 20 years from now I don’t want a laundry list of things I should have done; wanted to do~yet feared exploring! Rather I would love to have a journal full of memories, experiences, and adventures to recall with satisfaction!

What about you? Playing it safe, hugging the shoreline? Perhaps today is your day to explore what it would look like to “catch the trade winds in your sails.”  Dream big! 🙂

But–I’m so disappointed!!!

 

“The wounded Oyster mends his shell with a Pearl” Anonymous

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Disappointment is a part of life.  You cannot dodge it, you cannot prevent it, but you can deal with it in a productive and successful manner.

 It took Hershey four attempts to launch Hershey Chocolate.  Henry Ford was not a winner the first time, and Thomas Edison had more disappointments then successes! However, they all succeeded because they had the fortitude to stick it out and deal with the disappointment effectively.

 Disappointment can be a major cause of business or relational failure because we may quit too soon.  We may have difficulty weathering the setbacks, walking through structural changes, or we simply get hurt or offended.  Setbacks and conflict can create disappointment killing your prior ambition.  You may simply have a huge urge to walk away!

 One of the biggest challenges with disappointments is that we can become bitter and offended; even see ourselves as a “victim of circumstances”.  These emotions will cloud our view of the situations, others, and ourselves. It’s a vicious trap and one to avoid!

 In my life I have found that I am most disappointed when my expectations for a person, project, or experience are unreasonably high!  When the situation ends up much different then what I had in my mind and my hopes are dashed!  It’s tough to return to my “visionary” thinking!

 So how do we navigate disappointment without allowing it to rob us of our mental and emotional health?

 Balancing our expectations is probably the key.  When working with others we will have conflict and at times, find ourselves offended. Expect it. When conflict arises have a plan in mind to address it , learn from it, and resolve it.  Without a plan you will simply leave yourself open to be wounded.

 Business will have ups and downs.   In the DISC Profile I have a high S, which means I like things nice and STEADY!  I get scared when things feel “uncertain”.  I am learning that business and projects have seasons to navigate.  If we don’t anticipate these seasons we will be left discouraged!

 Most of all, disappointments are a great opportunity to grow, to learn greater trust,  to forgive, and to see life from a fresh perspective~~

Pretty sure my opinion of “disappointment “ is not FUN, but at my ripe old age            ( LOL) I have learned the value of hindsight.

We are told in scripture that God promises to never leave us or forsake us, that He  uses all situations for our good, and that He has a plan and purpose for our life,  so if we believe Him then  disappointments can create growth IF we navigate them with grace.

I am still a learner, how about you?

🙂