What’s your “Red Rubber Ball”?



I had a wonderful opportunity to attend an event where an inspiring young man by the name of Kevin Carroll was speaking.  He was funny, challenging, kind, and smart.  I sat there fully engaged to his positive and empowering ideas and stories.  Kevin, as he shares his life story, expresses that he came from a truly rough upbringing that was not full of promise; his parents were both drug addicts and disinterested in who he would grow up to be.

However, at the neighborhood park (where his focus on the red rubber ball began) he had others in the poor neighborhood who would speak life and promise into his young and impressive heart.  He chose to believe it and has become a passionate influence on thousand of lives; young and old. His passion is that we all “find OUR red rubber ball” and thrive!!

“Finding your own ‘red rubber ball’ and chasing it to your heart’s content, he argues, is the surest route to peace, prosperity, and happiness. Over the years as an athletic trainer, creative catalyst for business and public speaker, Kevin has transformed his philosophy into seven simple rules that any successful leader will endorse:

1) Commit to it; 2) Seek out encouragers; 3) Work out your creative muscle; 4) Prepare to shine; 5) Speak up; 6) Expect the unexpected; 7) Maximize the day!!! 

In a knowing voice Kevin also shared a few key elements for moving forward with the dream in your heart:  Have a humble and grateful attitude, surround yourself with people who breathe life into your dreams, find one or two people to become accountable to, people who will spur you on past IDEA to ACTION!

Do you know what your passion is? (Your Red rubber ball?)  If so, have you committed to it? surrounded yourself with collaborators? Sought to be relentlessly creative? Have you verbalized your passion to anyone? Been surprized by the unexpected?

Isn’t it time to discover your inspiration and chase it for a lifetime?  (Kevin Carroll)  Let’s get at it!!


My take on 50 Shades of Grey~


My heart has felt heavy this past week.  I have been reading so many different thoughts, articles, and reviews of the movie 50 Shades of Grey.  Secretly, I had hoped it would flop at the box office, sadly it was a box office win.  I am sad that so many people are so drawn to a hurtful and harmful “pseudo love” in light of what God has designed our experience of love to be.

1 Corinthians 13 says it best”  Love is patient and kind (is not demanding nor abrupt); Love does not envy or boast ( is not prideful about a conquest); is not arrogant or rude (not manipulating and intimidating).

It does not insist on it own way (does not take affection “my way, my timing, my satisfaction”); is not irritable or resentful ( does not confuse anger and harshness with affection); it does not rejoice in wrongdoing ( does not feel empowered by breaking barriers and twisting what real love looks like) , but rejoices in the truth.

Love bears all things ( considers the needs of the one they love to be their utmost joy), believes all things ( does not establish a relationship of uncertainty and tension), hopes all things and endures all things.

People often say “what happens in the bedroom is up to each individual marriage and I would agree…to a point.  This movie gathers millions of people into a room to watch harsh, intimidating, and borderline abusive sexuality with the redemption at the end because the arrogant, narcissistic billionaire finally “falls in love”.  All wrapped up in a pretty bow! No!  What really happens is that the stage has been set for people to have their sensitivities and values worn down once again; moving hearts further and further away from the beautiful plan God had for love.

This has made me so sad.

This morning I had the refreshing joy of reading a blog by Lisa Jacobson (www.club31women) where she so beautifully listed “what makes love hot”:

1.  Love is hot when a man and women commit to stay together.

2.  Love is hot when he and she freely offer forgiveness to one another.

3.  Love is hot when he cherishes her and she respects him.

4.  Love is hot when he and she lovingly lay down their lives for each other.

5.  Love is hot when a  couple is so grateful to grow old together.

I look at my precious, innocent granddaughters face and I pray that she will experience a rich and meaningful marriage relationship full of fun, passion, and rich love completely devoid of anger, abuse, manipulation, or cruelty!

Last week I had a sweet visit with my precious mother; she and my father have been married for over 60 years!  ” How’s dad?” I asked and she said with a sparkle in her eye and a knowing smile of her face ” he’s so cute, he’s sexy”. 🙂  we giggled.

THAT is what God intended..deep,rich love and affection that stands the test of time…don’t settle for any counterfit expressions of love!  God had the right idea!! 🙂

Powerful Thinking~

Thoughts are intensely powerful!  Our thoughts have the power to lift us up or to drag us down; they can inspire us or crush our spirits.  Our minds are always running like a clock runs on the wall; always ticking.

I’ve heard it said that “no one can be harder on you than you“, I am going to have to agree.  As humans we can have the tendency to think through a filter of fear, uncertainty, self doubt, or negativity causing our passions to be squelched and our joy to be hindered.

But, do we have to live life thinking this way?  I would have to say an emphatic “NO!” It is simply time to intentionally re-adjust our thinking patterns.  Negative thinking can be habit forming but so can positive thinking.  Training your mind to focus on what is good, to dream of possibilities, to reaffirm your talents to yourself, to capture all the many joys that can arise in a day will completely take your thinking in a new direction.

Proverbs 3:21-22 says; “Guard clear thinking and common sense with your life; don’t lose sight of them. They’ll keep your soul alive and well, they’ll keep you fit and attractive.”

Author and painter Joni Eareckson Tada puts it into these words; ” No more imperfect thoughts. No more sad memories. No more ignorance. I have a redeemed body AND a redeemed mind! God grant me a foretaste of that perfect mind as you mirror your thoughts in me today.”

Our minds are powerful; God made them that way. It is our challenge to choose to direct our thinking towards hope, passion, joy and peace or to continue thinking through a negative filter.  This is one of the tasks no one can do for us.

Philippians 4:8

 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.

Let Powerful thinking infuse you with joy today! 🙂