Time for a change? Time for a plan?


It’s been almost 15 years since I was given the daunting opportunity to build my first Life Plan.  The very idea that I could somehow establish some plans or a course of direction for my life felt like a whole new concept; almost impossible.  As a mother of two teen boys, a pastor’s wife, a sister, daughter, friend, and community member how in the world could I possibly build some order and intentionality into my life?  Frankly, I was already running as hard as I could!!!

And THAT was the problem ~ I needed to give myself permission to stop “running so hard” and start to “run smarter.”  Thus began my journey of building and living my Life Plan, a journey that completely turned my life around enough that I now spend my days helping women to find fresh success as they too live their lives with renewed intentionality.

Here are some good questions to help you assess where you are in your life today, and perhaps give you some food for thought as you consider how you will make choices for your time, your talents, and your relationships in the season ahead:

1.  Today, how would you rate your life satisfaction? Be honest.  What about your life brings you great joy? What depletes you? What discourages you? What excites you?

2.  When considering your health, career, finances, family, faith, on-going relationships, and emotional well-being; how solid are these key “accounts”?  Are you soaring or drowning, or somewhere in between?

3.  What IS working in your life?  What choices are you making that are producing great impact in your life and the lives of those you love?

4.  What ISN’T working in your life? Consider areas where you would like to improve, identify the obstacles that stand in the way of your living a meaningful, hopefilled life. We all have seasons of challenge in our lives where we truly may be helpless to make everything better~ disease, death of a loved one, etc.  But often times we can be the one to sabotage ourselves from a truly meaningful life.  Can you see areas where you could make some meaningful changes to move forward in your life?

5.  What would you LIKE your life to look like?  Describe in detail what kind of life would make you excited to get out of bed each morning? Be bold and specific!!

6.  What actions do you need to apply to your life and calendar to insure that your life begins to move slowly but surely in a fresh and meaningful direction?  Do you have people in your life to hold you accountable to these action steps? Will you invite them in?

As you consider these questions are you already considering your life with a new filter?  I hope that you are and that if you are discouraged or simply “stuck” you will give yourself permission to bravely set a fresh course for the Life you truly want!!!

By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.” Benjamin Franklin

Planning is bringing the future into the present so that you can do something about it now.” Alan Lakein

Planning is a process of choosing among those many options. If we do not choose to plan, then we choose to have others plan for us.” Richard I. Winwood

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I Don’t Feel Like It!

Very few people wake up in the morning and feel like taking big risks or feel like digging deep for something that has eluded them. People don’t usually feel like pushing themselves harder than they’ve pushed before or having conversations that might be uncomfortable.   Seth Godin

It’ that time again, the time where we access our past year to see what we’ve accomplished and then we begin to RE-commit to goals unmet or we set new goals.  The first of a new year tends to serve as a kind of “reset button” for us all.

We may take the time to list our fresh commitments, share them with a trusted friend or coach, or we might simply keep them private but “top of mind”.  We may commit to getting healthier, eating better, being more diligent in our spiritual life, focusing on a better marriage or relationships.  We may establish new fresh practices for our professional lives as well. All these commitments will require diligence.

I love attending my local gym in January where I am surrounded by zealous people committed to getting healthy THIS year! Every day the classes and exercise equipment are full! Day after day people make an effort to focus on their health…….for about 30 days.  By the tail end of February many of those recommitted to their health have already backed away from their goal.

Why? They didn’t FEEL like it.

Before the sun is even up I grab my bathrobe and a cup of coffee. I head downstairs to my favorite chair where I will journal, pray, and read on a daily basis; a discipline that needed to be shored up last year! Every morning I find my way to my chair until I begin to give myself permission to sleep just a little longer….and a little longer….until, once again, my diligence weakens and I lose out on this meaningful time.

Why? I didn’t FEEL like it.


Making key changes in our way of doing life requires diligence that is not based on how we feel. I have often joked with friends saying that “I am always so happy after I work out but I have never started my day FEELING Yippee! I get to go exercise!!”  I simply do it because it has become part of my lifestyle; there were many years when this was not the case.

Aristotle says “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is therefore not an act but a habit.”  You’ve never heard an interview with an athlete where when they are asked how much they practice they answer “when I feel like it!”  Achieving our fresh goals requires commitment even when we don’t FEEL like it!

We are rounding the corner to the end of 2013. Are there goals you set last year that you’d like to recommit to?  Are there new goals you can see that you need to establish?  Are there dreams you’d like to diligently step into this year that you know will require effort on your part?

If so, then take some time to address the challenge you know you will face as you pursue fresh behavior. Will you stay the course even if you don’t FEEL like it? and when those times come how will you prepare to be proactive so that you don’t sabotage these fresh goals that matter to you?

If we don’t give ourselves permission to make decisions based on our feelings we will find a greater sense of resolve and satisfaction; it will be well worth it!

“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we don’t give up.”  Galatians 6:9