Time Flies~

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Facebook has a feature that is fairly new.  This feature will send you a post, picture, or story that you shared on your “Wall”  from one to four years ago.  When these “reminders” show up on my Facebook feed I am always surprised at how fast time has passed!     Just last week I received a reminder from Facebook of a blog I wrote about my granddaughters birth prior to becoming her Mimi.  Scout is now almost 2 years old!! Time has just flown by!

I just returned from California a few days ago; my husband and I were doing some work with a leadership team we’ve known for some time.  We realized that  it had been 5 years since our last on-site with them!!  We were all pretty surprised at how fast time had flown by!

We all get reminders every day that time passes quickly.  Our children grow up so quickly, family and friends pass away, we see wrinkles on our faces that weren’t there yesterday, and we attend college/high school reunions that are a stark reminder of how quickly the years go by!

Thinking about this over the past few days I have been pondering the value of each day in light of how quickly they pass.  Am I stewarding well the time I have?   Am I using my gifts and talents as best I can to have impact in the time that I have?  Am I connecting with the people who matter most to me in the time that I have?  Or am I letting time just fly by?

What about you?  In light of how quickly time passes, are there any changes you might make to use your time more intentionally, with greater impact, and with purposeful relationships? Time is a gift, don’t let it slip by.

“Yesterday has gone.  Tomorrow has not yet come. We only have today, let us begin.”  Mother Theresa

“The bad new is: Time Flies!  The good news is: You are the Pilot!”  Michael Altshular

It’s About Making Time, Not Having Time~

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Life is busy.  Our days are filled with many meaningful activities.  Our time is divided between the needs in our homes, our children, places of employment,churches, community organizations, and IF we can fit it in, some time to exercise and care for ourselves.

We are daily, even hourly, connected to our computers or Smart phones; logging onto our mail, Facebook, Pinterest, news, or games throughout the entire day which eats up even more of our daily time spent.

So, what about taking time with friends and family members? How well do we fit in key times of connection to maintain on-going relationships with those that mean the world to us?  Do we tell ourselves we are too busy to make the time? Do we assume we’ll grab time when we can?  Think about this:

Just spending a little time with someone shows that you care, shows that they are important enough that you’ve chosen — out of all the things to do on your busy schedule — to find the time for them. And if you go beyond that, and truly connect with them, through good conversation, that says even more. Many times its our actions, not just our words, that really speak what our hearts feel. Taking the time speaks volumes!

Are you saying ” I’d love to but I really am too busy!”

  • Have five minutes? Send an email. It doesn’t take long to send an email to someone you care about, asking them how they are, wishing them a good day. And that little gesture could go a long way, especially if you follow it up over time with regular emails.
  • Have 10 minutes? Call them up. A phone call is an easy way to connect with someone. It’s conversation, without having to even get in the car!
  • Have 30 minutes? You might not get the chance to do this every day, but at least once a week, take 30 minutes to drop in and say Hello to someone you care about and just visit.(No Smart phone allowed)  It’ll be some of the best 30 minutes you’ll spend this week.
  • Have a couple hours? Grab coffee or go to lunch with a friend or loved one. Who among us doesn’t have a couple of free hours each month? Weekends, or evenings, there’s got to be a time that you spend in front of the TV or computer that could be better spent building rich relationships with those that matter to you.

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                                        Make it a priority to build rich relational connections into your schedule. Enrich your life while bringing value to those you love as well.  Don’t put it off assuming they will always be there. 🙂

Please remember me!!!

“Your story is the greatest legacy that you will leave to your friends. It’s the longest-lasting legacy you will leave to your heirs.” ~ Steve Saint

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Have you ever thought about how you would like to be remembered?  We only get one chance to LIVE a life that will be remembered so considering HOW we want to be remembered is important!

I suppose it would be considered morbid to think about what you would like your obituary or gravestone to say. However, if we consider that now, I can only imagine our behavior could be shaped by it!

Do you want to be remembered ? for your kindness? Your creativity? Your leadership? How about your family?  When people think of you, how will they express who you were in their life?

A Legacy is built year upon year.  As you respond to the changes and challenges of your life; you are building your legacy! As you choose your priorities and expenditures; you are building your legacy!

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A great expression of how to build a legacy is this:

“To focus on leaving a legacy ultimately reminds us that life is short.  Whether you get 40 years or 95, it is your responsibility to do the most with what you have, and leave this world a better place than you found it.  To do this, you need to discover and cultivate your gifts, take care of yourself to ultimately take care of others, and seek to impact as many people positively as you can.  A great goal is to leave this world and the people in it with a little more than when you got here, and never to rest until you have fulfilled that task.”  Training for Warriors

What do I hope for?  I hope to be remembered as someone who loved her family and friends. A person who loved God and made every effort to seek peace.  I pray I will be remembered as a woman who was “real” and allowed others to be real also. I pray that I will be remembered as a woman who cared for the hearts of women, young and old, and  I also hope that I will be remembered as a girl with “blingy clothes” 🙂

( I just added that!!)

Fortunately I still have today to make choices to have a legacy that matters! What about you? How to you want to be remembered?  Think about it, pray about it–then make choices towards your desired legacy!

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The greatest treasures of all.

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As a young girl I imagined my future family; little girls running around my house making “girl noises” with pink clothes everywhere!  I have 5 sisters, love them all, so a family full of girls was all I knew to anticipate.

Imagine my surprise when my OB/GYN looked at me and said ” You and Greg are having a boy~~~not once, but twice! Nathan and David Salciccioli…..they make my heart sing.

God is so great to allow us to serve Him, to partner with Him to love and care for so many incredible people as we walk out the precious days of our lives. I have appreciated all the roles I have had the joy to fulfill throughout my life! However, the role I have loved the most is: MOM.

Often in my coaching career I talk with my leaders about using their time to put their “fingerprints” (their efforts) where it is most importantly needed; for me it was always my family.

I felt compelled to use this week’s blog to talk about my kids because they inspire me!!  When I talk with my boys I am constantly thinking that I want to be more like them when I grow up!  🙂

Nate and Dave’s courage, honesty, compassion, passion, ability to question and challenge the status quo, love for others, and love for their precious brides astounds me and challenges me.

If I found that my life was to be over shortly, that my time on earth was done~~ I would have no regrets because I know for sure I chose to pour all I had into the Greatest Treasures of All!!

Life can surely offer so many wonderful distractions; be certain you place your efforts on those things that mean so much to you…………..  🙂

Where do your FINGERPRINTS matter the most?? have no regrets…..

Will you really be here for the holidays?

I love this time of year as I gear up for all of my favorite holidays in the coming months.  I anticipate celebrations with friends and family, parties to host and attend, gifts to purchase, wrap, and deliver, & lots of food to prepare. I know it will be a full season of wonderful variables.

However, in the midst of a busy holiday season I am still working, writing, and carrying on with all the responsibilities I normally have on a day to day basis. I face the question; “How can I be fully present in this season rather than being so task driven that I actually miss the valuable moments that come my way? Every year I hear myself saying, “Goodness, the holidays went by so fast!

Whether you’re feeling totally overwhelmed or slightly frustrated as you anticipate the holiday season ahead, it’s easy to lose perspective about what’s most important and valuable to you–your relationships!

Truth is we all spend most of our time in the past or the future, rather than the present moment. What we end up doing is passing through today’s moments on the way to somewhere else and, in doing so, we miss the present moment. That’s how these meaningful memories can end up passing us by!

Benefits of Being in the Moment

  1. Increased enjoyment: We will find that we enjoy life more if we’re fully present rather than having our minds elsewhere. Food tastes better, I have more fun with my family, work is more enjoyable, and laughter is sweeter when I experience them UN-distracted!
  2. Reduced stress. Worrying about the past and future can give us stress. Choosing to give ourselves permission to slow down and focus on “Today” can alleviate the stress of past regrets and the uncertainties of the future.
  3. Better relationships. When we really commit ourselves to being with someone, to listening to them,we are being a better family member, friend, teammate, and even spouse. We have better conversations. We bond with those around us!

“Life brings simple pleasures to us every day. It is up to us to make them wonderful memories.” — Cathy Allen

Enjoy the coming months to the fullest. Slow down and intentionally choose not to be so “busy-minded” but rather give yourself permission to be fully present each day!

…and may this be a very special Holiday season for you!

The “C” Word~

My blog has been a place where I’ve openly shared experiences, challenges, and thoughts about life, leadership, family, and many other lifestyle topics.  I’ve often said to folks “if you want to know what’s been going on in my life just read my blog.” However, this past summer I’ve help something tightly, carefully, in order to give the necessary privacy that was needed.

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I have learned that the words “CANCER FREE” are the GREATEST words in the world!

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Over the past 4 months my father was diagnosed with Thyroid Cancer. My father responded with great hope and willingness to do what was necessary to partner with the doctors facing this challenge head on. My father is vibrant and healthy again today and our entire family is greatly relieved.

The “C Word” caused great turmoil in my soul as I worried, fretted, prayed, and then prayed some more for my precious father. Even though he was a real trooper it was rough to see him so vulnerable to the medical steps he needed to follow and to those administering them. To the medical professionals he was just another patient, but to his family he is our hero, our friend, our encourager, our Father!!! There were numerous times that I wanted to storm into the offices and make that very declaration!

One hour ago I learned of a dear friend who lost her battle with Cancer. Tami had fought a valiant fight. She was loved and will be deeply missed. I have lost many friends to the “C word”, as have thousands of people around the world. Thus, I must express how deeply grateful I am for my fathers health and healing. I am blessed for every moment I get to share with him. My appreciation for my time with him has heightened during these past few months!

I have no exquisite thoughts or answers for those facing cancer in themselves or a loved one, it’s a very personal challenge and people face it in their own ways. BUT~ I do realize more and more the value of time with those we love, so on that thought I must say one thing.  If you have the opportunity to spend time with those you love; simply make it a priority today!

The most important thing in life is making time for the people that matter, for the people you care about and that care about you. The hard fact is – when it comes down to it – people and relationships really are the most important things we have in life. Your life wouldn’t be “quality filled” if the people you loved weren’t a part of it…. from the family and friends we see on a regular basis – to the people who live far away, or live on different schedules…. its important to make time for all of them.

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The incredible VALUE of shared experiences~

“But we can’t right now, our lives are too busy!”

  ” I know we have some money put away but let’s just wait and see how this year goes!” 

“I’m sorry but  this is a stressful season at work!”

All valid reasons, They all make sense but perhaps we could address the core issue.

I was blessed to be raised in a family where shared experiences: meals, game nights, camping, and many other options were a rich value. These experiences tended to be the glue that connected our hearts, caused laughter, and helped remind us that we were family, even during those tough teen years.

In like fashion, my husband and I have taken time and resources to build the tradition of shared experiences into the DNA of our family; it is our prayer that they will do the same with their own families.

However, I often hear from friends and colleagues that their lives are too busy, finances too tight, relationships too challenged, and ideas too hard to come by when looking into the possibility of a vacation, or other experience opportunities.

I used to have the idea that making memories could be something we can do “later on”, in a few years, down the road but after losing a precious family member last year my filter has done a 180 degree change.  None of us can count on tomorrow, nor can we count on the fact that we will always have all our family members or our health.

You might say that this is a fearful approach to life; pessimistic perhaps, but I would differ with you and would clarify that it is due diligence to “seize the day”.  Lay down those aforementioned excuses and plan a vacation, have game nights, go on hikes, cook together, dream together, do life together.  The real cost is your time and today is all you know for sure.

Over 24 months ago we took an untimely (and a kind of expensive) trip to Southern California to visit precious family there, went to Disneyland with them and had a very special shared experience with them all……   It was the last time I got to laugh with Christopher……………….It is more priceless a memory than I could have ever imagined!

We are embarking on the doorway of summer!! Use this time to lay down the cell phone, computer, daily worries and make fresh memories and meaningful connections with those you have the privilege to love!! Make a summer list and begin today!